the IDIOT

some fools (usually female “feminists” that nobody wants to talk to — or worse, an over-protesting male trying to look sensitive and “objective”) believe that when a guy rants about women and sexual relationships he’s necessarily “misogynistic” (99% sure that was a certain male dipshit from TX claiming so in that link, BTW). i rant about everybody (obvious if you read more than 2 posts here), but i cannot rant about men and sexual relationships with the same intensity as with women. i am a male heterosexual (though, as paul newman offered in slap shot, who knows? maybe years from now i’ll be sleeping with old goalies).

in other words, here comes a rant about some women. (note the word “some”, jagoffs.)

i was just presented with a classic recently. a woman i’d hooked up with wanted to get in my face and require me to do something with her (no, it wasn’t anything fun). flipping out because i wanted to chill, she brought up that she’d taken me to lunch this week, as though it were some big financial transaction i owed her for. is this a female trait or just a looney trait? i’d like for a fem to fill me in on this. the woman and i went out 4 times (3 dinners and 1 lunch) since we got together, and i paid for everything except the lunch she mentioned. apparently though, in her mind it has become a situation where she bestowed a benefit on me as a result of… WTF. hell if i know. there seems to be an understanding in a majority of women that interacting with them equally and fairly means they’ve done you a favor and that you are indebted to them. is this my imagination? is it a pussy thing? are most guys the same way, ladies?

after being whipped badly by pussy in my 20s, i adopted a strict approach for my 30s and beyond (i’m… shit, i can’t remember if i’m 41 or 42, if you can believe that. … 41) that i will never treat pussy as a favor. if a woman wants to screw me, i believe it’s unhealthy for her to treat it as anything other than that. nor will i, except in brief, obviously posing terms, treat a woman as if i’m doing her a favor by having sex with her. this expectation of an overt, 2-way, self-interested street unfortunately seems to run counter to much female instinct that i’ve witnessed so far. i’ve only slept with a few women who approached sex openly as mutually beneficial exchange (including in that number 2 who were, surprisingly, absolutely bonkers in their shortsighted selfishness in other areas), despite all of them coming back for seconds (which could of course be more out of familiarity/convenience than desire; not trying to stud up my image here).

i’m fascinated with heterosexual attitudes, especially with regard to lags between supposedly immediate social “changes” (whims) and the deeply ingrained instincts that we may never be able to leave behind or keep from thwarting us. i’m not a normal guy, so many of the general complaints women have about men don’t apply to me. however, i still love reading about them, whether explicitly sexual or just normal social stuff. i read women bitching about men so i can learn. maybe when i find a woman who does the same in reverse, i will have found my “match”.

BTW, i just brought up this “lunch favor” bullshit to the woman who posited it. she claimed that i misunderstood. fine. i asked her to explain what she meant. subject change.

well let’s see if i give her anymore of this! ::grabbing package::

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