Non-Coercive Parenting (or A Person is a Person No Matter How Small)
recommended -- david salisburythe title alone would provoke scoffs from most parents, but i believe this is one of the most important topics in society. it's not like conventional parenting has a worthy track record.
..."It was only when I realized many years later that I was in some ways a miserable failure as a parent that I began learning how to become a better one. After I remarried, I watched my new wife. Her view of her two boys was different from what my approach to child rearing had been with my own children. She saw her children as individuals who were fully entitled to her respect--even as infants. She listened to them. Never once did I hear her tell them to pick up their room or do their homework. Instead, she discussed these things with them and let them take over the responsibility. As the important issues of their lives arose, she made room for them to make their own decisions. I found the dynamic fascinating. The more she trusted her children, the more trustworthy they became." ...
(that's not quoting david salisbury, btw.)
parenting in america is a joke. i've written about this before, and seen the results of snot-nosed parenting far too many times.
posted by saltypig @ 06:09
Excellent post, Charley. "it's not like conventional parenting has a worthy track record..." Spot on. I think that the best hope of creating a healthier society (which, by definition, would also be a much freer society) is to raise healthier individuals. But many parents don't even consider parenting methods beyond spank/don't spank, whose religion (if that's an issue between the parents), and possibly gov indoctrination prison/private school ...
Oh, and while I'm here, I'd like to go on record regarding your photo choices. Although I've no problem enjoying nice shots of pretty women, the one currently on your home page -- of the goat atop the Hummer -- is far and away my favorite. (I've dreams of having my own goat herd some day.) :-)
Sunni
thanks, sunni! would like to see you write more about this subject on your blog (or here, of course). especially interested in definitions of love. i think love is entirely a self-interest emotion, with indications that also appeal to the self-interest of its subjects. clears up a lot of self-righteous mumbo and confusion. i like what you were writing on your blog about it. some people have trouble with the obvious reality that "love" is highly discriminatory, and that dating is an audition.
i smile every time i see that goat pic. forget his name, but he's a charge of one of my best friends and her family. stopped by to see them on my way to idaho, and that goat immediately jumped onto the hummer and started checking it out. he even tried to open the back doors with his hoof! being very curious myself, he became an instant soul bud. ... you might even say that i love that goat. more pics to come, as soon as i get my act together. really dig that you liked it enough to mention it.
yes, your own goat herd one day would be nice. goats are cool.
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